Considering a couple's boudoir session? Here's what you should know
Whether you’ve been together forever or you’re in the honeymoon phase of your relationship, couples boudoir can add intimacy & connection to your relationship.
What better way to spice things up than to prove to yourselves that you look hot as fuck together?
Here is what you need to know before you bite the bullet and book a couples boudoir session at Alchemy Babes.
1) You should consider doing your own shoot first.
Everyone and every relationship is different. My first ever personal boudoir session was a couples shoot with my husband. Because of my own insecurities, I think it would have been even better and more fun if I had done a shoot by myself first. Much of my hang ups about my own body were based on how I thought he saw me. I think if I had done my own session first I would have enjoyed my session with him a lot more instead of spending all of the time leading up to it sick to my stomach and wanting to cancel.
On the other hand, I had a client who did her first shoot with her husband. I told her my story and she was not open to doing it without her husband at all. He was the only person she’d ever been with and she said she would feel better and less anxious if he was there, which was fine. She didn’t regret it and even told me she’s glad she listened to her gut, and so am I!
It’s just something you may want to consider.
2) Nearly every booking for a couples shoot starts with “My husband is down to do it, he just doesn’t know what to do if he gets… you know… excited.”
Listen people, I am a full grown adult human being. I have had two husbands and I have two sons. I can handle seeing an erection without being offended by it.
Not only that, but when I was 16 I got my certified nursing assistant license through my high school. From 16-20 I worked in Labor & Delivery, post partum, cardiac & long term senior care. I saw a lot of penises and vaginas and I started at a young age. It literally does not phase me at all.
As long as the men in my studio exhibit self control and follow my rules (no genitalia out & no penetration) then we are good. We stop to change outfits about every 20 minutes and we can always take breaks when needed. It’s a perfectly normal function of the human body. I literally don’t care.
3) Sometimes I hear… Oh, I would love to do this, but my husband is super self conscious.
Feeling self conscious isn’t only for women. Lots of men feel self conscious about their bodies as well.
Men don’t talk about their insecurities like women do and they are often even more alone in their feelings of self doubt than we are because of it. I tell them the same thing I tell the ladies…
I’m here to support you. I think you are a beautiful person and I really want to help you see what I see. I felt just you like feel. “I don’t have the body for this. No one wants to see me. I am overweight. I have this saggy skin bla bla bla” You have to just bite the bullet and do it anyway and then you’ll see what everyone is talking about.
Men need boudoir too.
4) There aren’t a lot of “outfits” for men.
Women have loads of outfit options for their boudoir shoots. Teddy’s, bodysuits, bra & panty, stockings, heels, jewelry and the list goes on forever. Sometimes there are just too many options.
Men are pretty much left with basic underwear options and jeans.
You can still spice up their look with things like body paint, silk ropes or handcuffs.
You could also have him start fully clothed and strip off items one by one.
But don’t stress yourself out about outfits for him, because there really aren’t a lot of options and I have a few tricks up my sleeve to keep your man feeling sexy & special during your session.